Learning To Live

We each come into this world not knowing who we are, where we are, how we got here, when we got here, why we’re here and are completely reliant on someone else for our nourishing and nurturing. We are raised up learning how to crawl, how to walk, how to talk, how to behave and are even taught about values whether they came traditionally or flowed freely from our parents or guardians. We are taught and told so many things in life but the question is... have we been taught how to live or simply how to survive?

As a very young child I remember learning from my mother, father and other relatives about all the things I was expected to not do. Being the eldest of all my siblings I was told several times “Don’t you ever do....” and almost never got the explanation of why it was so important to not do those things but I recall being told “You’re the oldest so you have to lead by example”. The pressures of life that were placed on me and fell on me were tremendously heavy. Oftentimes the pressure was painful but overall the benefits of that pressure produced resilience in me. The unfortunate part about growing and learning is that most of my life lessons were learned hard and came with great scars because I did not have proper examples of who and what to become. Thankfully for me... my spiritual senses geared in and drew me to God and the closer I got to Him, I learned how to live.


In today’s culture, many are being led to live lives that draw attention from social crowds for the sake of social followings and money but this is not the will of God for our lives. We are to pursue purpose and not “the paper” (money). It is very true that much of our survival requires the resource and means of having money but THE reason we exist is to fulfill a purpose. Yes, we have free-will and make daily choices that either push us towards our purpose or pull us from our purpose. I love how Matthew 6:33 NLT says “But seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.” This means that when you seek and pursue life and your purpose for living which is aligned with God and His will, you will not have to chase or pursue money, things, or people. God will add and balance your life with all that you need. For any of us who aim to live life with the goal of being in good grace and the blessings of God... 1 Thessalonians 4:1-12 gives great examples on what life should look like for us.

The scriptures above both teach and outline living in purpose yet so many of us are failing at living in our purpose because many people do not know their purpose. I know people personally in their late 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s whom all have no clue as to what their purpose is. I’m not here to judge and absolutely are not placing myself above these people but the one thing all these people have in common is a lack of relationship with God. In order for us to know our purpose, we must be connected to and in relationship with The one who assigns and gives us purpose.


I’ve known my purpose for many years and can be honest first with myself, then second with others to admit that though I know my purpose... I hadn’t always been operating in my purpose yet my heart has always desired and chased my purpose. Here I am a couple of days away from being 35 years old and have just recently began to learn how to truly live. One of my mentors and a sister in Christ, Porsha recently said to me “Lateesa you have been living for others for such a long time, it’s time now that you live for you. Whatever that is and looks like, you need to live for you.” I humbly received her admonishing because she was right. All my life, I had been journeying through this life of mine hearing so many voices, having so many expectations and often failing to please any of them. But the one voice that I hear that aligns with and soothes my soul is the voice of God. His calling, His expectations, and His way of leading me to live is the one that actually brings me great joy and peace. It is through God that I have learned to live and continue to learn. Each day that I awake, I am filled with great energy and stride because I am for once in my life truly living. This is because I have chased my purpose and not paper or people. And because I have chased down my purpose and the Kingdom of God, I am living a blessed life while learning how to live.

My prayer for each of you reading this is that you can learn from and through this message that your life doesn’t have to look like the culture’s. It doesn’t even have to look like your parents, your pastor, your friends or anyone else’s but it is imperative that you connect the dots of your life’s journey to your purpose. You will discover that when you live in purpose, you will have all you need and more. It will not exempt you from trouble, temptation, rainy days, or setbacks but your purpose will lead you to the setup of your blessings. Learn to live by the measure of your own happiness and success. Don’t merely choose to let your life mirror what is being shown and shared on social media or expressed through culture and customs. You have a life design that fits only you and created by God. I dare you to learn to live and to live in purpose. I promise you... it’s the greatest joy in the world.


May our lessons be plenty and our journey’s be joyous and beautiful!


God Bless 😘