Starting at a really young age, we all classify the peers we see and speak to often as our friend(s) without ever defining the word friend. It is my belief that this happens predominantly because we were not taught the word Associate or heard our parents classify any of their close peers as an associate. I believe it is safest now that we discuss the topic and life lesson on friendship… How to define a friend, How to qualify a friend, How to classify a friend, and How to be a friend.
The term Friend is defined in the dictionary as 1. A person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. The bible gives us several scriptures and references that helps us to see how to define and qualify a friend as well. In Proverbs 12:26 NKJV says that “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 17:17 says “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 18:24 says “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Then there’s the good ole scripture and truth left for us to hold dear to our heats in John 15:13 that says “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” That scripture was speaking of the love of Christ as He considers his followers and disciples as his very own friends whom He loves (This love is not a fast but present love) so much that He was willing to and did lay down His own life for us. These definitions, scriptures and understandings are all vital and essential for us to have as we navigate through this world because we all need friends.
Because of many betrayals I’ve endured, I now know how to define, qualify, and classify my friendships. I learned and are now living this incredible lesson because I had to learn how to be a friend. In learning how to be a friend, I started with the question of “What kind of friends do I want and need in my life?” My answer was to simply be to someone else what I wanted and needed. That includes being a good listener, supportive, positive, be loving, be kind, be loyal, be steadfast, being present for my friends when they need help and/or have lost someone dear to them, celebrating their successes and accomplishments, crying with them, holding their hands, comforting them when needed etc.
Speaking of my friends… I have the Dopest, Most Incredible, Most Amazing and supportive friends in the World! These friends have endured and passed the test of being qualified and justified as My friends because they are God’s love and gifts to me as I gift them with the love and light of God in me. And yes, you read it right and clear when I said my friends were and had to be qualified! What is it that makes them qualified you may ask? Well the biggest and most important factors is the GOD-factor. The God factor means I see, hear and feel God’s presence in them and through them. Then there is the factor of wisdom. Then there’s the factor of growth. Then there’s the factor of them being completely honest and having integrity with me whether I am right or wrong. You see, I need and receive friends that are able to be the extra set of eyes and ears for me in ways that I can stand corrected and supported by God through them. I Do Not need people in my life that simply take up space and spread like weeds and not like fruit. The classification is all in knowing the personality and spirit of my friends so that I know who to call on and when to call on them I.e. when I need advice Spiritually, Mentally, Relationally, Financially, Parentally, Professionally and Naturally. I often tell myself that I know that there is both the Righteous in me just as there is the Ratchet in me therefore you know I have got to have friends that I can turn to when I need to turn up 😂. Don’t worry, it is not that often but there is that relational area of need and I am so happy to say that I truly and gratefully have all sufficiency and support in my friends. With that being said… This one is for My Friends… The Real Ones!
To Whitney, Sheldon, Cleon, Kameelah, Shawnita, Brian, Jerreca, Janese, Marlon, Courdria, Melisha, Sharon, Arnesha, Shaleem, Tamara, Jerome, Alan, Dominique, Terrica, Adrienne, Brinetria, Shareka and my late yet ever great brother and sibling Rico… You all are MVP’s in my life. You all give me never ending gifts of joy, love and strength in the presence and power of your friendship. Each of you have made my journey in this life beautiful and sweet. Many of you have been friends of mine in several seasons and have been able to not only watch me grow but have grown with me. I am thankful to God each day for each of you and pray that God continues to allow you all to be both a thread and anchor of love in my life as He blesses you all to live your best life and beyond your most vivid yet desirable dreams! I love you all 💞
May our lessons be plenty and our journey’s be joyous and beautiful!
God bless 😘